I Love My Wife

Being the bulletin architect among many other duties here at church, I stay a few weeks ahead. Always looking to what’s next so others will be informed about upcoming events. I’ve been in Mother’s Day mode for the last few weeks and was thinking on my walk this morning about my Wife, Mother, Mother-In-Law and Grandmother. They are all incredibly strong women. In their own ways they have all taught me valuable things.

Jill, my beautiful wife, has been an amazing addition to my life. I would be a totally different person (probably not for the good) if it weren’t for her. She gave birth to two incredible boys - AMAZINGLY, WITH NO DRUGS! She’s tough, smart, intuitive and loving. I fear that too often I neglect her because I’m busy trying to give her all I can. Truth be told, she mostly just wants me. That’s hard to take and believe and understand. Who in their right mind would just want me? God does. Jill does. My boys do. I guess there’s at least a short list who like having me around.

I feel so incapable sometimes. My goals are ambitious. I’ll be 40 in about 6 months and I was “supposed to be a millionaire” by the time I’m 40. What happened? Life. Bad choices. Good choices. More life. That’s what happened. I wouldn’t trade it though. Life. It has been good, even when it felt bad. I’ve learned, I’ve grown. I’m a better guy now than I ever have been. And if I live to be at least 100, a goal of mine, then I still have a little more than 60 years to go.

I love my wife because she loves me. Not because I’m perfect, because I’m not. She loves me because she sees me with a different lens. I may never view myself the way she does, but I know she’s genuinely in love with me. How many people our ages can say that today? I’m blessed. I’m fortunate. I am loved.

Jill is gracious, long-suffering, kind, gentle, loving… I think this list sounds familiar. On my ‘Big Question’ widget from IDEO/TED yesterday, it asked: “How will you make your next interaction more authentic?” What a big question! I’m trying to be mindful of that in my daily interactions now. Being authentic. That’s what Jill is… authentic. That’s who and what I’m drawn to… authenticity. I’ve experienced too much of the fake.

I love my wife and didn’t want to wait for Mother’s Day to tell her. She is an incredible, enduring woman. God knew that was just who I needed as my partner for life. Charm is deceptive and beauty fades. Jill loves God and me. Did I mention that I love my wife?

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